My mother died today. Not literally. But something in my emotional body crossed a line it can’t uncross. What died was the illusion that my definition of mother and her definition of mother would ever align. I held that hope for a long time. Longer than I want to admit. Hope has a way of disguising itself as patience, as compassion, as “maybe one day she’ll see me.” But hope, when it asks you to abandon yourself, becomes a slow erosion of the soul. Today, one of those definit

Sometimes It’s Just Intelligence Operating on Another Dimension There’s an unpopular opinion I’ve been sitting with for a while now, one that makes people uncomfortable the moment you say it out loud. I’ve come to this understanding through my desire to understand the thought patterns of those I care about and what evil means to people subjectively as well as what they think causes it. What if evil isn’t always cruelty, or malice, or darkness for darkness’ sake? What if, in

There’s a moment that happens in almost every relationship, usually when you’re tired, stressed, or feeling vulnerable-when your partner does that thing. The tone. The delay in texting back. The defensiveness. The way they avoid emotion. The way they interrupt. The way they don’t follow through. The way they act like nothing happened after a conflict. And suddenly, you’re not just annoyed. You’re activated. Your chest gets tight. Your mind starts building a case. Your nervous

This year didn’t ask me to become someone new. It asked me to integrate who I already am. Less proving. Less explaining. More alignment. The themes weren’t loud, but they were consistent. They showed up in how I loved, how I worked, how I moved my body, and how I chose to stay in conversation with God when things didn’t make sense. Family: Choosing Presence Over Perfection Family this year reminded me that love is not an abstract concept. It’s logistical. It’s emotional. It’s

I watched a TikTok the other day about abandonment wounds being healed through self-loyalty, and I felt that familiar tightening in my chest. Not the dramatic kind. The quiet kind. The kind that says, oh… this again. The kind that recognizes truth before the mind has time to argue with it. The message wasn’t flashy. It wasn’t about “high value” anything or cutting people off at the first sign of discomfort. It was simple and almost uncomfortable in its simplicity: abandonment

One of the biggest misunderstandings in adult relationships isn’t about what we fight over, it’s about how we expect conflict to end. I’ve noticed two distinct styles of people when it comes to resolving tension: Resetters and Repairers Neither is “bad.” But they are very different-and if you don’t understand the difference, you can end up feeling unseen, unsafe, or chronically dissatisfied without knowing why. The Resetter Resetters believe that once a conflict is over, it’s

For most of our lives, we are taught to value IQ. Grades. Credentials. Being sharp. Thinking fast. Cognitive intelligence is rewarded early and often, so it is easy to assume it is the most important form of intelligence there is. IQ matters. It helps us analyze, solve problems, and build complex systems. But there is a quiet truth many people do not learn until later in life. High IQ does not equal emotional maturity. And emotional maturity is what determines the quality of

“If you want a happy ending, that depends, of course, on where you stop your story.” — Orson Welles We all live through chapters that don’t look like they’ll have a happy ending. The heartbreak. The loss. The disappointment that sneaks in after you’ve tried so hard to do everything right. Sometimes it’s a relationship that didn’t last. Sometimes it’s a dream that feels like it’s slipping out of reach. And sometimes it’s just that quiet ache of wondering if you’ll ever get to

Lately I’ve been sitting with something Chase Hughes said about discipline, and I realized that’s how I changed my perspective on my health. “Discipline is prioritizing your future self.” Not punishing yourself. Not forcing yourself. Not grinding until you’re numb. Just… choosing her. The woman I’m becoming. The one I see so clearly- steady, powerful, soft, radiant, leading with authority and ease. The one who already exists in my spirit before she arrives fully in my timelin

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Since my dad passed, living in his house has been like walking through a memory I never actually had. It’s wild, we didn’t have a relationship for years. Most of my life, actually. He wasn’t the dad I needed him to be, and I wasn’t the daughter who knew what to do with that kind of wound. But now… I live in this house he left behind. And I feel something I didn’t expect: gratitude. Gratitude for the roof over my head. For the way the light hits the kitchen table in the mornin

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I’ve been thinking about this paradox lately how the longest way is almost always the shortcut. It’s not sexy. It’s not viral. It’s not even all that exciting to talk about. But it’s the truth that keeps smacking me in the face every time I try to bypass it. When we’re building a life that feels good not just looks good we can’t skip the slow, messy, unglamorous parts. The part where you have to wake up early to stretch instead of scrolling. The part where you meal prep even

There’s a quote I love that always stops me in my tracks: “It is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.” -Abraham Maslow Oof. That one lands. Because let’s be real-most of us have our go-to “hammer.” For some, it’s overworking. For others, it’s avoidance. Or being the strong one, the fixer, the overachiever. We start to lean so heavily on what we know that we use it even when it’s not what the moment calls for. But life isn’

Someone said something the other day that made me think: “Your frequency is what you’ve emotionally accepted as inevitable.” Read that again. Not what you wish for. Not what you pretend to believe during your morning affirmations. Not even what you work for. But what your nervous system has quietly decided is just how it’s going to be- whether you speak it out loud or not. That sentence hit me like a truth-tuning fork. Because that is the real work. That’s where manifestation

It’s easy to feel grounded when everything’s going your way. When the sun is out, your money’s flowing, your kids are thriving, your relationships are smooth, and your plans are unfolding like clockwork-it’s easy to say “I’m good. I’ve got this.” But life doesn’t leave any of us in constant sunshine. Eventually, the storm comes. Sometimes it shows up as heartbreak, betrayal, financial loss, illness, confusion, or the crumbling of something you thought would last forever. And