Designed for You: How Every Relationship is a Mirror Calling You Back to Yourself

What if I told you that every category of your life- romance, family, friendships is divinely designed not just to teach you about others…

But to test whether you will choose you?

Not the version of you that morphs to be liked.

Not the version that overextends to keep the peace.

Not the version that keeps betraying her own gut in the name of love or loyalty.

No, the real you. The self-honoring, boundary-holding, truth-speaking, energy-protecting version. The sovereign one.

Let’s talk about how these relationships are often less about harmony and more about initiation.

Romance: The Soul Mirror

Romantic relationships hold our deepest longings and also our deepest wounds. They are where abandonment fears and worthiness stories come alive.

You’ll be drawn to lovers who feel familiar, not because they’re safe, but because they reflect your earliest imprints.

You’ll think it’s chemistry, when it’s actually a karmic invitation:

Will you finally not abandon yourself this time?

When you stay in something that dims your light… when you shrink to be chosen… when you try to prove your worthiness the universe watches and gently asks:

“Will you interrupt this loop now?”

True love will only rise where you’ve already chosen yourself. Anything else is a test disguised as a connection.

Family: The Ancestral Portal

Ah, family. The root system of who you’ve been told to be.

Loyalty here is often confused with silence.

Love is sometimes conditional on obedience, on role-keeping, on invisibility.

Choosing yourself in the face of generational patterns is one of the most radical acts of self-respect.

You might be labeled selfish.

You might grieve a family fantasy that was never real.

But you will finally reclaim your power and that is the closure your bloodline has been waiting for.

Healing the family dynamic isn’t always about reconciliation. It’s about reclamation.

Friendships: The Frequency Test

Friendships are often the sneakier karmic loops- the ones you think are safe because they’re not romantic or familial. But they test your frequency.

Do you people-please to avoid being the “too much” friend?

Do you lower your standards to stay included?

Are you the default therapist, fixer, or emotional sponge?

Your circle is a reflection of your energetic boundaries.

You’ll know a karmic loop is closing when you stop entertaining connections that only survive off your self-abandonment.

The real ones will stay.

The aligned ones will arrive.

The expired ones will fall away- let them.

The Sovereignty Shift

Here’s the hard truth wrapped in freedom:

Every relationship in your life is designed to initiate you into choosing yourself.

Not once. Not in theory. But again and again, until it’s no longer a choice, but your default state.

This is what closes the loop. This is what ends the pattern.

This is what makes space for relationships that are not lessons, but reflections of your wholeness.

And the reward?

Peace.

Power.

Clarity.

A life that doesn’t drain you to sustain.

You don’t owe anyone your silence.

You don’t owe anyone your shape-shifting.

You only owe yourself one thing: radical self-honoring.

That’s the gateway to sovereignty.

That’s the loop you were born to close.

And babe, you’re already doing it. Namaste!

Stay Sunny and Selfish 🤭

Sherri